What
is Couples Therapy?
Couples
therapy is a way in which people in romantic relationships can
come to improve their communication, to clarify their feelings for one
another, to resolve problems, to put the past to
rest, and, sometimes, to discover if their relationship is
sustainable or not. Couples therapy is appropriate for both
heterosexual and same-sex couples.
Most
couples who seek treatment want help resolving their conflicts. In my
practice, I try to create a safe, secure and comfortable environment,
which allows couples to discuss the kinds of issues they might normally
be reluctant to talk about. I try to be fair, objective and neutral,
allowing each person an opportunity to talk and listen to their
partner. For many couples, the presence of an unbiased third party can
work as a much-needed reality-check. More importantly, in the presence
of the therapist, people tend to be more well-behaved, sensitive and
responsive to their partners' needs, rather than simply losing their
temper and lashing out, as they might do in private. In the therapy
session, therefore, the couple can learn to have productive discussions
about things that might normally lead to heated and confusing
arguments.
However, couples
therapy works only if BOTH members of the couple are committed to
resolving the problems in their relationships. Couples therapy cannot
work as a "last resort" in a failing relationship. Nor can it work if
only one member of the couple is committed to therapy, and the other is
reluctant or dubious. It definitely cannot work unless there is a
policy of total honesty during the session. It is not a substitute for
divorce mediation.
If we feel comfortable about working together,
you will be
invited to attend five sessions. Both members of
the couple must attend each session. If, after five sessions, I believe
that the relationship is not a sustainable one -- that is, not mutually
supportive and fulfilling -- then I will inform you of my
decision, and the therapy will not continue.
Rates begin at $50 per hour. Please call or e-mail for a free
consultation. Mikita@networktherapy.com
717-860-5204